For the moments when the waves have finally calmed enough for you to catch your breath. This is the season where you begin to see yourself clearer, explore what truly matters, and take the first steps toward rebuilding from within.
You Are Not Special – And That’s Liberating Trigger Warning: Because I write for many different people in many different stages of healing, there may be times I write something that when you are in survival mode, you may not be ready to hear and may not be the appropriate timing for the situation. If…
The Parts That Needed Me In my previous post I discussed the book No Bad Parts by Schwartz. I explained Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and what led me to read the book. When I started The Held Edge, I wrote about how I arrived at my Breaking Point and ultimately my healing journey. The…
The Journal Is Here I’ve wanted to do more than write for a while now. I hate traditional journaling — staring at a blank page or a one-sentence prompt I could answer in one sentence. I either froze or spiraled, ranting about my circumstances with no direction back to autonomy, agency, or what I could…
No Bad Parts: The Book That Connected the Dots Four Years In After years of talk therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) that led to frustration and hopelessness, a friend recommended her therapist. She told me it was like nothing she had experienced and knew it was what I needed. So, I made an appointment…
When Coping Stops Helping How survival strategies outlive survival I don’t know about you, but through my growth, I’ve realized I have a lot of coping strategies. For a long time, I thought they were signs of wisdom — intuition, insight, being ahead of things. What I see more clearly now is that many of…
Why Change Feels Hard Even When You Understand It In a recent post about reading for understanding instead of information, I mentioned a few books I started but didn’t finish. These weren’t light reads. They weren’t just informational. They were books that required intention and action. And that’s where I paused. Closing the book and…
Boundaries, Part II: When Clarity Costs Something When writing about boundaries, I realized this is a topic that can be fleshed out in a whole book with a lot to say regarding healing and boundaries. No single post can hold all of it, but we can take it piece by piece in a way that…
Boundaries: What They Are, What They Aren’t, and Why They Feel So Hard Boundaries Series – Part 1 You can’t scroll social media or browse self-help content without seeing or hearing the word boundaries. It’s everywhere. But what are boundaries? What does that concept really mean? Many of us were never taught or modeled what…
The Truth About Motivation: What Actually Keeps You Going People talk about motivation like it’s something that just shows up out of nowhere — like you can sit on the couch watching Netflix and suddenly feel ready to change your life. To be honest, sure—I have those days or a few days in a row…
They Didn’t Ask to Be Here — Parenting Through the Long Work of Healing (Part 2) When Awareness Meets Survival In my last post, They Didn’t Ask to Be Here — The Awakening Before the Breaking Point, I wrote about the moment I realized that if I wasn’t careful, my mental health struggles would become…